I AM soft Podcast

27: How May I Serve? In Bringing Light to Our Fears, We Naturally Fall Into Serving With Love

In bringing light to our fears, we naturally start falling into service to others with love. 
We are built to naturally help and support others, however a lot of the time the little time or energy we have left to give to others feels almost like another to do check on the list or almost a burden. Most of us want to help and be of service, but tend to go and seek that as another thing on the outside of us.
By choosing self and focusing on bringing light to our fears, we naturally start to find we end up being, doing, acting in ways of love. We naturally start to be of service because it flows from our saucer in overflow. The more we are of service on the inside, the more we can be of service on the outside. We receive through our giving. It's like a beautiful dance of energy that balances out in the greater energy field.  
By asking ourselves "how may I serve", watch what starts to show up in your life. We will have opportunities to bring light to parts of us that we kept hidden or are fearful of. It's not about being fearless, it's more-so a subtle shift in energy that takes the focus off ourselves, our own life and our greatest fears to other people, and how we might impact their lives. 
By choosing ourselves, continually stretching our consciousness and self awareness, we naturally fall into serving others from a place of divine love. Help, support, and service that is no longer conditional and not based on external circumstances.
Maybe your service to others today is saying "no" to something not aligned anymore in your life. This allows something that is aligned to come your way to fill the space. Something that your gifted service flows from divine love from your heart. 
I hope you enjoyed the cows mooing in the background in this episode.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa 

26: Fear! Are You A Master Of Disguise? Join The Fears Be Gone Challenge

Join the Fears Be Gone Challenge. Today, we talked about releasing of emotional, mental and physical fears. If you can turn and face the shadows and fears that you are carrying around, running from, hiding from, you can do and be anything in this world. 
Today we found a butterfly that was so incredibly colorful on its top side of its wings and almost danced as it flew around me. Then it landed on the ground and was gone. As I looked, it had closed its wings and became a master of disguise. It looks exactly like a brown leaf totally hidden in the grass. We used this analogy of how instead of flying high and expressing ourselves colorfully, we often hide our light and try to "fit in", turning away from our greatest fears. Yet those exact fears are our purpose here in life. To turn and let go of the very things that are keeping us grounded, stuck, afraid, in hiding or running away. 
You'll love this fun episode if fear feels like it is immobilising you. Your creative gifts and talents are sitting just on the other side of that exact fear. Those fears are leading you along a path to remember your truest self that is begging to be expressed in your unique ways.
Time to fly high like a butterfly as ALL of you in your wholeness. Fears and all. We can do this together...come and join the Fears Be Gone Challenge. Let life bring you the opportunities to take that next step.
Fears grow in the dark, but dissolve when we gently bring light to them.
Time to let the fears defrost. Life is waiting for you. You've got this.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With and open and grateful heart,
Melissa

25: But I'm Too Busy To Meditate. What If Meditation Changed Why We Think We Can't Meditate?

We either dislike meditation altogether or think it doesn't work for us. Mostly because we have an idea of what meditation is and "looks like" in our head. We have made ourselves separate and identified with our inability to open the door to our heart. 
Or the other way... we do start to meditate, but we make it a checklist chore on our routine list that we repeat day after day. We think we are free from our egoic mind, and maybe we even think we are "happy", but really we just created another conditioned program to check the box. 
Today's episode we went into how we are "too busy" to meditate (or insert whatever word you feel fits best for you), or how we might feel like it isn't a priority for us.
It's funny how when we do meditate, it then brings clarity or changes the busyness of the very things that stopped us meditating or thinking we cannot meditate in the first place. It's like flipping our whole view of the conditioned world and speaking an unspoken language.
Meditation isn't easy at the beginning. It can feel like a toll on the body, erupt buried emotions or bring up fears. This is where we get to create the safe space meditation that works best for us and our life situation AND allow that to change with us over time as the connection to our greater field expands and grows.
Meditation might feel like nothing. No thing. It might not even feel like it's having an impact on our life. It's often "invisible". When life throws a challenge, shock, grief, suffering or major life transition, often it is in these times where our compounding effect of connecting within, our greater field, our open heart kicks in. It allows us to process, receive, allow, accept and move forward and through without judgement and by processing our emotions fully.
Meditation or as we called it "opening the door to our heart" allows us to experience the richness, depth and abundance of life in all areas. It sets the scene for our day, our life, our relationships, our wealth, our holidays and leisure times, our sexual experiences, our careers, our sensory experiences, our everything and our no thing.
In the silence, in the pauses, in the present is our clarity. That state can then go with us everywhere we go - work, shopping, loud environments.
The more resistance we feel in this space and the more separate we make ourselves, the stronger we are calling to join the communal conga line and dance the oneness we are created to be. We can shine brightly as our unique puzzle piece when we see we are a part of the greater tapestry. 
The last 10 minutes (Timestamp 41:12) is a guided Open The Door To Your Heart Connection practice. I hope you enjoy.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa

24: Sacred Sexual Energy. We Are More Than Our Physical Body. Go Deep And Delicious

This bonus episode carries on from this morning's Authentic Being episode in the topic area of sex, deep sacred sexual energy with self and in a relationship. There was a question received about how we can connect more deeply within our own body during sex, sexual intimacy and more vulnerable ways of being with a partner. It matched perfectly to this morning's episode so much that I felt like it could be a topic all on its own.
We are much more than our physical body. We have created a world that often looks at sex as just a physical act. Something almost as if it's on our checklist to tick off. A performance. An act that has an ending. We often then chase more, more, more through different experiences, different partners or through pornography or things on the outside of us. Or we go the other way and shutdown to the physical act of sex, because it pretty much just becomes a chore or something we feel repelled by.
We can only connect as deeply and deliciously with another, when we can go deep and delicious within ourselves. We can build our own well of intimacy with self.
Can we strip back all our egoic thoughts, beliefs, limitations, expectations and fears from our mind and our root energy centre?
Can we be disciplined and focused enough to no longer just go along with what partners or sexual acts come towards us. So we no longer just accept into our field what the programmed and conditioned world shows us about sex, relationships and intimacy? 
Can we be focused and disciplined enough to listen to our inner voice and turn towards our fears of vulnerability, rawness, sacredness and allow the light to penetrate our truest energetic form? Then our physical body is like the icing on the cake to deliciously receive the pleasures of sacred sexual experiences with another from the inside, out. 
This episode is for anyone open to deepening their intimate sacred sexual and sensual connection with themselves and in a relationship with a partner. For anyone wanting to feel more pleasure, release their connection to sex from their mind expectations, and open their body to receive in more ways than ever imagined with the egoic mind.
It takes dedicated and disciplined inner focus no matter what loud addictions, pressures or short term pleasures come from the outer world. Watch your intimacy, relationships and sexual experiences change when your focus goes beyond the physical body and physical act.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa  
 

23: Authentic Being. What Does That Even Mean?

This is for those that are always relied on. The supporters, doers, always there for others kind of people. "I help because they need me", or "it makes me feel good", or "because I should be kind to others".
What does it even mean to be our authentic self? We often go about life in and out of jobs, in and out of relationships, in and out of life events as they continue to come towards us. It's like living a life that one day we might finally question or sense that it just doesn't appear right. Almost like we are all programmed and conditioned to live a certain way. We put ourselves into a box, but the box was always there waiting for us to get into. 
If we truly start to look at ourselves and be radically honest, we start to see that the things we thought made us "feel good" or were the "right thing to do" to contribute to the community, or your family, or your children or yourself might just be another layer of programming or conditioning that can be stripped away. Like layers of an onion. We can just keep taking away what we thought in our mind was our truest self. It's like peeling away onion layers that never ends. 
Once we begin to see the greater field through the eyes of our inner child, through play, through imagination, we get to access our truest way of being in the unseen - our inner world. This unseen field speaks to us constantly and if we are ready to open the door and listen to receive, we can start to be, do, act as our present moment awareness. The inner narrative is so strong and loud through a subtle quietness that now can override any noise in the outside world.
Your inner strength and power comes through that clarity in the inner silence. It becomes your inner voice that speaks through the subconscious mind and acts out in everything we do in this physical world. 
It's ok to let go of what we think we know. It's ok to be/feel lost or not know what you want to do, it's ok to reinvent yourself over and over. It's ok to play. It's ok to imagine. It's ok to question where your energy now goes and to whom. It's ok to start and stop projects, jobs, relationships or anything that now appears different in your field. That is what the life journey is.
No one on the outside can do this for you. No one can walk your path. No one can play for you. No one can imagine for you. No one can tell you who you are. No one can tell you what to do or not to do. Your inner narrative is your priority. If you don't focus and be disciplined on listening to your inner voice, life will happen to you and for you controlled by others. 
You are here to remember your gifts, your authentic way of being, to play, to imagine, to be YOU! 
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind...AND stay playing and imagining...
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa

22: Slow And Steady Wins The Race. Who is Rushing? Where Are You Going?

You deserve to slow down. Take your time. Where are you rushing to? What destination are you focused on?
Like the tortoise and the hare fable...slow and steady wins the race. We can hurry like the hare, but what are we rushing to win? Are we going from milestone to milestone? Are we so busy hustling that we don't even realize we might be fighting for something that we might not even want?
When we slow down and take the brave step of hopping out of the noise, the hustle and bustle of programmed life, we go within the shell, just like the turtle, to see all of what we really are. We can stop and reflect. We can see what is truly aligned for us in that present moment. 
If we all carry a tool belt of wisdom, are we brave enough to trust that by taking our time, exactly what is aligned for us will appear at the end of the dock, like a boat for us to board. The world is a paradox. Trust that by slowing down and taking your time, you are truly taking leaps and bounds. That being the tortoise truly does win the race...the race that doesn't have a milestone destination to rush to or "win". The race can be "won" by allowing what is aligned to come towards you. When that boat arrives, you'll be ready to board and your tool belt of wisdom will be there for you wherever that may take you.
It's easy to join the programmed world of loud, busy, chaotic, hustle. It takes a brave soul to trust their aligned destination, to self reflect and become self aware and "win" the race at a slow and steady pace. When aligned action then appears, you move at a pace that leaps far beyond possibilities ever imagined. 
You are running your own race. Only you get to choose the pace. 
Stay soft, Stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa

21: Signs And Miracles. Do You Listen To Receive?

Do you listen to receive? Messages and signs are all around us. It's not that some get them and some don't. It's more that some are open to receiving the incoming signal to receive. If we listen to receive, we receive more.
 
Messages and signs can be a lot of fun and like a warm hug. They can also be fascinating when connecting with loved ones that are no longer with us. It's more so that we connect to the energy field and co-create with a sign or signal that opens us to even more love and light in our field. Now that's a fun repeating pattern to have!
 
In today's episode, I shared how my dog, Meeka, who was a Yellow Labrador by my side for 10 years, helped create the dirt pathway analogy I have used so many times and shared with you here. She felt so close to me again today, which activated this Podcast topic for you. She's still messaging from the other side. I love and miss you, Meeka. Thanks for helping me share these stories with others. 
 
I also shared my miracles of all miracles story in a fun, light 4, 5 and 6 leaf clover experience...One that certainly blew my socks off. 
 
I'd love to hear your miracles, signs, messages or messenger stories in your life. Or if you are more of a skeptic or coincidence type of person, I'd love to see if that practice at the end opened the possibility of a new door? Let's try? What have we got to lose?
 
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind... and stay open and receiving!
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa 

20: Life Is Constant Change. We Can't Compare Seasons, Phases And Cycles Of Life

The only constant in life is that it is always changing. Once we accept that nothing is ever staying the same, we can start to flow with life and accept each new phase or cycle. We can let go and surrender more easily and open the door to whole new beginnings.
Sometimes it feels like we are turning a new page, starting a new chapter or starting a whole new book. The key in each of the different seasons we find ourselves in, is to never compare to anyone else. We tend to look sideways at other individuals, other families, other couples, other workplaces, other groups or communities. We might even judge, blame, or point the finger at ourselves or outwards towards others, however it isn't possible to compare. We never know what season or cycle that individual is in if we only look on the outside. 
If someone is in their cocoon phase, we don't point at them as a flying butterfly and ask "what are you doing in there. Are you lazy?". We look at them with love knowing they are at a different phase in their cycle. Or if we are in the cocoon phase, we can't compare and try to break out early to fly like a butterfly. We know that our season of growth is exactly where we are meant to be. Resting and not doing.
It isn't the constant change or seasons of life that cause us suffering. It is the comparison of seasons that is the cause of our sadness, grief, envy, jealousy, pain, frustration and suffering.
Today's message is simple, but a great reminder to live our own calendar. Your seasons might look similar to others, but they are never comparable or the same. Your life journey is uniquely yours. Open the door to your new beginning. Let's learn to smile and get excited by the next changing step.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa
 

19: Soul Sunglasses. Viewing Moments With Intention And Choice

We finally unpacked the Soul Sunglasses in episode 19 today. We spoke about all our choices available to match another's frequency during interactions or stay holding our own vision. If we have an interaction that is challenging, we can always go to the shop within our heart and choose another pair of glasses to view life through - a new lens to view this particular situation as challenging as that may be.
If your co-worker is often displaying angry behaviours, do we view them as an angry co-worker or can we still view them as their soul of divine love expressing anger at that moment? This change of lens is one of the most loving gifts we can give to another human being. Holding a safe loving space and seeing them beyond their physicality. 
Soul Sunglasses allow us to love without language. To love without using words. They allow us to be in the world holding a view of soul deep love despite what is happening around us. It's like a soul to soul whisper. We energetically connect and speak volumes without saying a word. 
It takes practice to stay connected to our own sunglasses throughout the day, so I love the physical act of touching our glasses and taking them off and putting them on. It helps to create the new neural pathway of choosing love. If you need a quick break, pop your sunglasses on your head and then put them back on. Each time you put your glasses back on, you have an open door to view with your lens of choice. You can choose fear or love. 
If you would like me to hold a Soul Sunglasses Soul Connection meditation, let me know. I am happy to hold space for a recorded session for us to connect soul to soul with limited language involved.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa
  

18: EGO Spoke Today. Meditation Is The Absence Of The Thoughts About the Thoughts

"Meditation is not the absence of thoughts. It is the absence of thoughts about the thoughts".
Today, we unpacked ego and egoic thoughts. We used the analogy of our thoughts like the waves in the ocean. We don't try to stop the waves at the beach, so instead of trying to change, ignore, distract or stop our thoughts, could we love ego instead? If it is a part of us, traveling with us for this lifetime, can we befriend our ego and make lightness of its entertaining ways?  
Trauma is like putting your body into airplane mode. Switching off to all outgoing and incoming external stimulus and staying inside the racing thoughts and mind. Like a rip in the ocean pulling us without any awareness. But we can start reconnecting through the power of focus knowing that those thoughts will always be there, AND that's ok. That they are just there, they are not who you are, or have any other role.
We introduced a way to focus through acceptance, hand on heart and a smile. A way to start practising and playing with the power of our focus on observation. Sometimes it's hard to simply observe, but we can focus on focusing. We can focus on observing. Give your power to your focus. That way our thoughts can play, be there, jump up and down or create any of the fears within, but WE are now focused on focusing on observing.
In today's episode, you got to witness a live ego experience as we flowed through with focus and intention. I hope it brings a smile or a laugh to your day as you could witness my ego fears expressed in real time. If I can go through that experience with you...YOU can do ANYTHING!
Remember the Ego Song sitting on your shoulder (you can laugh at me, it's ok), practice focusing on focusing, hand on heart, smile. Repeat. You've got this.   
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa